Attention Seeking

Some children seem to constantly seek attention. They ask their parents, non-stop, to check out every move they make. Even when driving, kids will ask mommy and daddy to turn around and look at something that they are drawing, or at something that passed by, or even just a funny face that they are making.

Parents tend to get upset after a while, because it seems like their child is not taking into consideration what their mommy or daddy is doing at that time. However, you should not get frustrated, because, for the most part, a child's mind simply can not grasp that you are busy doing something else, even though they can clearly see with their eyes. So, while it's true that these calls for attention can get annoying, you must learn to appreciate your child's needs.

It's simply that a child does many things that he considers to be very exciting, and so he simply wants to share them with his parents. You do exactly the same thing. Remember when you couldn't wait to show off you new shoes? Or when you wanted to get your buddies over to watch the game on your new plasma TV? It is no different for a child – the only difference is that they do have yet developed the ability to instantly understand that you may be busy with something else.

Children thrive on positive feedback. They need to hear words of encouragement, and to know that they are doing something that will impress you. That's why, when they perfect a new skill, or create something new, they want to show you and be praised. They are only seeking acknowledgement through words like "That's a great drawing", "Nice catch", or "I love how well you do that".

Parents generally underestimate just how important the simple act of watching is to their children. Watching your child without being asked, helps send a very strong message of love and acceptance. Children who grow up with this kind of attention wind up having a very strong self-image.

So start watching your child without being asked, but don't go too far and start giving unwanted advice. Your child wants you to watch him perform some activity – he doesn't want you to take control and start correcting him. He wants approval, not coaching.

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